You are not limited by your past experiences. You are not damaged or broken just because someone hurt you in your past. All wounds heal if you only relax and allow it. But just like a physical wound, if you keep touching the wound, it will not heal. You touch your mental wound every time you belittle yourself, criticize yourself, doubt yourself, blame yourself or put yourself down.
Your body and mind will heal naturally with time if you just relax and allow yourself to feel as you feel, without judgement. It is ok to feel afraid, sad, insecure, guilty, blameful, angry and all other unwanted emotions you might be feeling. It is ok to go from debilitating sadness to raging anger – don’t condemn yourself for getting angry – embrace all your emotions. They are natural reactions to unnatural circumstances. When you allow yourself to feel as you feel it is easier for your body to process what happened to you and heal the wound.
It is true that you can become stronger as a person because of all the hurt and pain you have gone through. The happiest of people can be the one who has experienced the most sadness. The most confident of people can be the one who was debilitatingly insecure for so long. Your past experiences can all enrich your life and inspire you to build your strength – it is a matter of attitude and perspective which you can change if you want to.