When all your zest for life is gone and you feel shattered into a million pieces, you will not feel better by complaining about it or pointing out how bad you feel. It will only enhance your negative focus and make you feel worse. Instead, what actually works is to make peace with what ever happened to you – no matter how awful it was and how long you have been in pain because of it. Just make peace with it.
Make peace – mentally – with the person who hurt you. No matter how badly he hurt you. It doesn’t matter. You can’t change what he did, and you can’t make him apologize either. That doesn’t matter. Just make peace with him in your mind.
Make peace with how you feel – make peace with feeling fear, insecurity, worry, anxiety, sadness, anger, rage, frustration and any other unwanted emotions you might be feeling. Don’t cover them up with positivity or hide them under a blanket of denial – just make peace with feeling like crap. You can’t feel any other way than you do right now, so you might as well make peace with it.
When you have made peace with all of that, make peace with what ever happens next. Maybe this person will try to hurt you again next year or 10 years from now or maybe he won’t. You don’t know, and it doesn’t matter. Worrying about what might happen later only ruins your now. It is not fucking worth it anymore. Give up your worry. There is no possible way to know for sure what he will or will not do so just give it up. Focus on doing what ever you can to feel safe and secure right now, and make peace with your fearful thoughts.
Making peace with it all, is the very first step on your healing journey but the most important one. Rest in this step until you begin to feel relief on a regular basis. Practice making peace with it every day. The more you do it, the more natural and reliefgiving it will feel. 🙏