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No one gives you a more valuable gift than the one who hurt you ๐Ÿ’

Never stop being a good person because of bad people“.

Jay Shetty

No matter what happened or how badly he treated you – choose to let your kindness shine bright within. No one gives you a more valuable gift than the one who hurt you – he inspired you to grow as a person, to find your strength and to find your way back to unconditional happiness, anyway.

You would not be the strong, kind and loving person you are today without all those challenges in your life. They are your blessings, your solid foundation on which you can build your strength. ๐Ÿ’ช.

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  1. jhward220
    Jul 09, 2019 @ 23:53:05

    I think it’s in us all but sometimes it takes a trigger to release it. man, woman, or just an event. but it forces us to come out of our own skin and take control.

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  2. Hilary Tan
    Jul 09, 2019 @ 23:55:36

    Iโ€™m kind until the person crosses the line. That fine line between appropriate and inappropriate. Yesterday I had to block someone because he crossed that line many times, and yesterday I snapped. He didnโ€™t learn a damn thing from me so thereโ€™s no point keeping him around in my life anymore. Iโ€™ve blocked him a few years ago and gave him another chance after he found me via his work number through WhatsApp (creepy.) At this point, Iโ€™m simply wasting my time he doesnโ€™t listen, he doesnโ€™t respect women, and doesnโ€™t care about how I feel. Iโ€™m OK if I never speak to him again. He lives across the world with a 12hr time difference so itโ€™s unlikely we would meet in person.

    I also had to do a lock down to kick him out of my IG account. That dormant IG account I have was public before. Now itโ€™s private. I removed him as a follower. Itโ€™s a privilege – not a right, for these people to have access to my photos. And if they canโ€™t respect my values, then I have to close the door on them. The only thing Iโ€™m truly upset about is knowing that he has photos of me because he pestered me so much for selfies etc. through WhatsApp. Heโ€™s blocked now.๐Ÿ–

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    • joypassiondesire
      Jul 09, 2019 @ 23:58:29

      Good for you ๐Ÿ’. I know this too well also. I threw out and blocked several hundreds of people from my social media in September last year. Still block people weekly ๐Ÿ˜‚. Always do what feels better to you. ๐ŸŒน

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      • Hilary Tan
        Jul 10, 2019 @ 00:13:11

        People throw me out too and it hurts. It hurt when this one girl stopped following me and stopped talking to me, and she became a druggie. She makes me feel uncomfortable now, so Iโ€™m considering unfollowing her. Sheโ€™s gorgeous which is why Iโ€™m debating whether or not to unfollow. Her account has turned into a porno/stripper account flooded with her naked selfies….

        My husband has even tried to contact her on FB but she doesnโ€™t have anything to do with me and doesnโ€™t talk to him either, and I donโ€™t know what I did to piss her off. It eats at me because I want everyone to like me, but Iโ€™m starting to realize that some people just donโ€™t like us. I need to be OK with myself and who I am as a person. ๐ŸŒธ I shouldnโ€™t care about seeking validation from others, and yet, I do ๐Ÿ™‡โ€โ™€๏ธ

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      • joypassiondesire
        Jul 10, 2019 @ 05:02:00

        Don’t worry, be kind to yourself. It is an endless journey to learn to love yourself unconditionally and let go of needing validation from others. At least you are aware of the deterimental habit and you want to change – that is the biggest first step ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’

        The only reason why I have locked my social media and why I kick out people is because of what happened to me in September last year. The man who hurt me got sentenced to prison for what he did to me. There were 250 000 very nosy and hurtful people who started going into my account all at once when they found out what had happened to me. That is why I locked my account. I am still very sceptical when I get new follow requests. I usually let people follow me now, but if they start acting in hurtful ways, I kick them out again. ๐Ÿ™

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      • Hilary Tan
        Jul 10, 2019 @ 05:29:13

        Thank you for your kind words of encouragement. That made my evening โ™ฅ๏ธ

        Ugh. People can be so nosy. Itโ€™s more comforting to know that he got sentenced to prison and that heโ€™s locked up behind bars at least. I donโ€™t blame you for not feeling safe though. 250,000 nosy people is a lot of people to deal with on IG! ๐Ÿ˜ฎ Iโ€™m thinking about only accepting people from WordPress and people I personally know. Iโ€™ve already deleted a bunch of โ€œdead accounts,โ€ stalkers, marketing accounts that look spammy, and bot accounts. Thereโ€™s many more to go but if I end up with only 100 followers after cleaning things up, I much rather have that. Honestly, I think that the safest place online is WordPress. I donโ€™t really feel safe on other social media platforms….

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      • joypassiondesire
        Jul 10, 2019 @ 05:37:35

        ๐Ÿ™ It is a good thing to follow what feels like relief to you. ๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’๐Ÿ’

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      • Hilary Tan
        Jul 10, 2019 @ 05:44:36

        It would be nice to be content and at peace with life. It sounds so freeing. ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿป๐Ÿ˜‡๐ŸŒธ

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      • joypassiondesire
        Jul 10, 2019 @ 05:47:44

        One step at a time ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’๐Ÿค—

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      • Hilary Tan
        Jul 10, 2019 @ 05:56:40

        I will remember that! ๐Ÿ’—๐Ÿ˜Š๐ŸŒธโœŒ๏ธ

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  3. ayansolaibukun
    Jul 10, 2019 @ 05:35:15

    This is profound and instructive.

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  4. coachkanikafindingabetteryou
    Jul 10, 2019 @ 06:08:40

    Deep thought but so true… thanks for sharing this incredible piece

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  5. transformativenourishment
    Jul 10, 2019 @ 15:07:52

    Always a hard learned lesson but in retrospect always a valuable learning experience๐Ÿ™Œ

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  6. Kate
    Jul 10, 2019 @ 21:46:14

    Needed this reminder today. Thank you.

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  7. Hilary Tan
    Jul 11, 2019 @ 00:19:39

    Update: I’m going keep my IG account public after thinking about what you told me yesterday. I don’t want to channel by locking the account down, and rather show kindness instead. However, I did remove anyone I didn’t want following me and it should be easier to keep tabs on things. If that guy comes back, I will block him (should have done that in the first place – I only removed him for now). Wishing you a wonderful evening! Hopefully you received lots of sunshine and smiles today. ๐Ÿ˜Š

    My IG account is @serene_hilz

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    • joypassiondesire
      Jul 11, 2019 @ 06:23:04

      Funny you would say that now, I thought the exact same way yesterday – and I opened my Instagram account too. ๐Ÿ˜Š๐Ÿ™

      I think just like you, if someone does something bad, I can just block them from my IG. ๐Ÿ™

      I will follow you on your IG. If you want to follow me, just search for joypassiondesire. I have just pictures of me and my babies so far. I erased everything and everyone from my account a few months ago so. But my intention is to build it up with quotes I love too eventually ๐Ÿ™๐Ÿ’

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