When someone argues with you – it is 100% about the beholder πŸ™

“If someone is arguing with you, or finding fault with you, and not liking what they see, say to them, and mean it lovingly and kindly, but mean it sincerely, “You’re seeing something in me, that must be active in you, and I think this is more about you, than it is about me”.

So if someone is having a bad day, and they are angry at you, it’s about their bad day, much more than it is about you. It’s always about the beholder. Everything is about the beholder.

So what you want to do is become more aware of what you’re seeing in others. That’s the thing you want to be aware of. Don’t worry about what other people are seeing in you. Don’t worry about the love they’re giving you, or the love they’re not giving you. Let your awareness be about what you’re putting out. Let your awareness be about how much you’re loving.

We wouldn’t be running around saying: ‘who loves me or who doesn’t love me?’, we’d be saying: ‘who do I love, what is it about you, that I love?'”

Abraham Hicks, Washington, D.C. 5/10/08


11 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. imfinethankyousite
    Jun 24, 2019 @ 10:51:41

    So true. Recalling some arguments in the past and seeing that it was a reflection of them.

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  2. nostaligicitalian
    Jun 24, 2019 @ 12:09:51

    WOW! YES!!!

    It is amazing how my ex called me a narcissist and sociopath constantly throughout our divorce. I am embarrassed to say, I didn’t even know what they were so I looked them up. Since then, I have watched as she continues to show those traits.

    It kind of goes with the “point one finger at me, and there are three pointing back at you” phrase.

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  3. Ancient Skies
    Jun 24, 2019 @ 19:25:16

    Profound insights! Thank you.

    Liked by 1 person


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