Intense inner pain and sadness – a practiced perception

Sometimes it feels like the world is a cold and lonely place, like your life is useless and you feel such intense inner pain and sadness. Those are the days when you should be even kinder to yourself, let yourself know that it is ok. How you feel is how you feel, make peace with it. Then acknowledge that it would be nice to feel a little relief and that you look forward to that. See this moment as a perfect moment to distract yourself with anything you can think of. You only feel bad as long as you think thoughts that feel bad. If you distract yourself with something else, you can distract yourself from these sad thoughts and when you do, you will feel relief.

It is actually a lot easier than you think. All it takes is 17 seconds of distraction and you will begin to feel better. Unless you choose to continue to think these painful thoughts. It is impossible to feel good when you think thoughts that feel bad – so that is where your work is: distract yourself until you feel relief.

But be kind to yourself! Feeling sad can be a habit, a habit of thinking. But even a habit is nothing more than a practiced perception, a practiced way of thinking. Once you begin to change the thoughts you think, ever so slightly, you will begin to see lasting changes in how you feel and what happens to you as well.


6 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. mihrank
    May 03, 2018 @ 08:11:41

    wow – this is so powerful post and valuable!!

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  2. Hilary Tan
    May 03, 2018 @ 20:14:19

    Have you heard of self actualized(?) by Leo on YouTube? He has a video about how to let go of the past and to stop thinking negative thoughts. Basically everything you said here.

    Whenever I am thinking negative thoughts I try to think back to the present. During this time, when I’m focussed on the present my mind cannot think of the past and this I am free of that pain if only for a moment.

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  3. Onyemomma
    May 04, 2018 @ 03:29:24

    Beautiful expressions, and very helpful.

    Liked by 1 person


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