Choosing a more hopeful perspective, even though you are afraid – that is where magic happens!

There is such amazing magic in deliberately choosing your thoughts. You don’t have to complain or point out flaws more than just a brief moment, you can move on from the experience by directing your focus on what you now know you prefer and how you now know you want to feel.

Regurgitation of what happens to you is not a skill – it is simple sloppy focus. Easily done but not empowering! Choosing a slightly different perspective, even though it would be easier to complain… choosing a more general perspectice, even though it would be easier to criticise… choosing a more hopeful perspective, even though you are afraid… choosing a more reliefgiving perspective, even though you are sad… now that takes skill and that is both freeing and enpowering. Not only will you feel better while you practice this, you will affect everything that happens to you as well.


When everyone asks you for money

This month I have help out three friends financially. It began two weeks ago with a friend who I love dearly – he didn’t have any money left so I took him to the store and let him pick out all the groceries he needed. It was a lot of fun helping him out with this. I have helped him out financially a lot the last 10 months.

A week after that a very close friend of mine had made some bad choices (bought a lot of clothes and things without thinking about what to do when he had spent all his money) and had no money left. I have chosen to help him out fincially for the rest of the month. I have helped him out financially for over 10 years.

And last night I received a text from a neighbour that I have only met twice (in August last year) who has two little babies, they asked if I could give them some money since they didn’t have any money left this month… it didn’t feel ok. I have given them money 4 times since August… but I thought about their two little babies and the thought of them not having any food made it easy for me to give them some money.

And why do I write about this? Because I feel I have reached a point where I have become a person who people come to when they need money. I don’t want to be that person anymore. Sure it is fun to be able to help so many people each month and still have a lot of money left for me and my babies… but I feel this is no longer the right way of dealing with these “friends”. They only become more and more dependent on me and my money. I want them to find their own freedom and empowerment, their own responsibility for their finances.

My intention for next month is clear. I know what my focus is. It is time for a change – and I will begin right now.

One last cozy day at home ❤

Today is the last day of our holiday week. We have been out playing in the snow and then playing inside.

I am wearing my favourite comfy clothes today – and will continue to wear them all day. 🌹

I look forward to tomorrow when we will get a baby sitter for the first time in 6 months. My babies will have so much fun and I and boyfriend will relax together at a spa, then eat delicious food, have some beers and then spend the night at a hotel.

But of course I will miss my two little babies a lot and I already – 🤣 – look forward to Sunday when we will pick them up again. ❤❤❤

Your acne and your cellulite does not make you any less beautiful! 🌹

I see who you are. I see who you are beyond the external things, beyond your clothes, beyond your makeup, beyond your body.

You are beautiful. You are so loved and adored for who you really are. There is no need to feel sad, ashamed, blameful, jealous or to wish you looked more like this or that. You are beautiful, right here and right now.

It is time for you to once and for all make peace with your body, make peace with your face, make peace with your skin, make peace with your personality and your emotions. Make peace with it all, look beyond all of it and see who you really are. Reach for the unconditional love that flows to you endlessly and eternally.

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