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When your kids have 100 meltdowns a day – how do you keep your emotional stability?

🀣 This is such a fun topic. Little did I know before I had kids that they would help me find a more stable emotional place so clearly.

As an example. Today I went to the grocery store with my two babies, aged 3 and 2. From the moment we left our house until we came back I think they had 20-30 complete meltdowns, each. 🀣 I don’t know why they do that some days, other days they can be as cool as a cucumber the entire time we are out shopping.

I was pretty stable emotionally when we took off but I really had to pause a few times in the grocery store to find some emotional relief. Two kids laying down on the floor in the store, lots of people stopping and staring while my two little angels scream and cry… How do you survive that? 🀣 Well. It is ok to have emotions and some people (not just kids) might be a bit more intense than others and some days might be a little bit worse than other days.

Am I a bad mom? Sure feels that way from time to time during my days – it is not easy sometimes. But I do my very best. On days like these I do my very best to sooth myself in my mind, remain calm and stable as I speak to my kids. Does it work? Sometimes. After 10 minutes they were pretty ok. They were happy and pleased until the next tantrum happened and so on.

I see my kids as a blessing. I love them with all my heart and I know they are the best teachers in my life when it comes to teaching unconditional love, unconditional happiness and unconditional relief. Now that is an excellent gift!

Of course today was a “worst case scenario” some would say but you could also see it as an incredibly important learning experience for both them and me. They learned that no matter how much they act out, I will remain stable and confident in my intention – ‘we are going to go grocery shopping and you are going to help me’. And they did. They had one cart each and helped me look for the products we were going to buy. We had a lot of fun, they smiled and laughed a lot.

I gave them a lot of positive feedback on what they did really well and at the end of the trip we talk about how fun it had been and how well they had helped me out. πŸ’– It is all one step at a time. Not only one day at a time or an hour at a time, sometimes a moment at a time.

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3 Comments (+add yours?)

  1. bravingmentalillness
    Jan 29, 2018 @ 22:39:18

    This is a great topic!! I’m telling you it’s so hard, but I’ve learned to walk away whenever possible and emotionally detach when needed!!! That’s the only way for me!

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