8 years ago I found out by accident that my boyfriend had been with another girl – and that he had lied about it for more than a year. At first I became totally emotionally numb for like 6 months. Then I started caring more about ME, what was important for me, how I wanted to FEEL. I completely let go of trying to control anything and focused more on general principles like “I want to be with a man who loves me, adores me, is attracted to me and truly wants to be with me” “if he leaves, then he is not a match to what I want anyway – I want someone who WANTS to be with me, only me” – I still have that attitude.
Do I really want to live in a relationship where I have to control what he does, who he is with etc? No – I want to be with someone who WANTS to be with me. If he wants to be with me there is no need to second guess anything because it is ME he WANTS.
We can’t force someone to treat us as we want them to – we can know how we want to be treated and know there are men out there who can gives us just that. Just like there are men who loves to be with more than one girl, there are men who loves to be with only one girl.
Don’t give up on love or happiness just because of infidelity. It can be your opportunity to tune in to who YOU want to be, how YOU want to FEEL and it can be a golden opportunity for you to start loving yourself unconditionally. Yes, it can be your opportunity to find your way into your own freedom and empowerment. Whether you stay or go is irrelevant, you can do this either way. ❤